17 Reasons Why People Fail
There are few emotions worse than feeling like a failure.
What might seem like a trivial or insignificant hiccup to someone on the outside can actually feel like a major disaster to the person involved.
The weight that comes with the feeling of failure isn’t caused by the reality of the failure itself, but by the personal perception of that failure, and what that means to the person.
There is a difference between feeling like a failure and actually failing at something.
Here are two statements:
I feel like a failure because I didn’t complete my to-do list.
I failed to complete my to-do list.
Feeling like a failure comes from your interpretation of who you are. On the other hand, failing is just failing. It’s a plain fact that you did not do something you meant to do. It’s not necessarily a statement about who you are. This is about being vs. doing.
You might experience the feeling of failure when…
1. Not Taking 100% Responsibility for Your Life and Choices.
If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings—everything! This is not easy. The number one principle for success by Jack Canfield
2. Are Not Committed
Put bluntly, the only way to have a powerful “present” is by advancing courageously toward a specific future. When you’re committed to a bigger future, your present becomes far less predictable. Rather than living within the confines of your narrow comfort zone, you begin embracing uncertainty. You begin stepping outside of your “known” world and begin approaching the world of your Future Self.
3. Not Having an Accountability System
An accountability partner is a peer who helps you grow in your career or life by offering guidance and by holding you to your commitments. … An accountability partner can help you identify weaknesses in your business, career or life make plans to overcome them, and hold you accountable for action
4. Not Having The Success Mindset
Reframing is a technique used to help create a different way of looking at a situation, person, or relationship by changing its meaning. Also referred to as cognitive reframing, it’s a strategy often used to help clients look at situations from a slightly different perspective.
5. Not Knowing How to Set Goal to Achieve Them
Do you know how to set goals? How often do you achieve the large objectives that are really important to you? If you’re having trouble following through with your goal planning, you may be tempted to just stop trying. People say things like, “Maybe this is just it,” or “I should settle for what I have.” But frequently what’s getting in the way of achievement is the actual goal. If your goal is to “lose weight,” how will you know when that goal is complete? When you’ve lost one pound? Five? Forty? Without a clear target, you’ll never hit your mark. That’s why it’s crucial to learn how to set goals that are clear, measurable, and actionable.
6. Having Limiting Beliefs
We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Your limiting decisions are hiding out in the areas where you’re producing results that you don’t want. Your limiting decisions have shaped everything you do. They have prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying at all. Time to bring them out of hiding. Once you do that, you have a choice.
7. Not Visualizing Your Dreams
Visualization is simply a mental rehearsal. You create images in your mind of having or doing whatever it is that you want. You then repeat these images over and over again, daily for about five minutes a day. In your five-minute practice, use your imagination to see yourself being successful in whatever goal you may have. Create A Dream Board!
8. Wishful Thinking
Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes. You might consider affirmations to be unrealistic “wishful thinking.” But try looking at positive affirmations this way: many of us do repetitive exercises to improve our physical health, and affirmations are like exercises for our mind and outlook. These positive mental repetitions can reprogram our thinking patterns so that, over time, we begin to think – and act – differently.
9. You Do Not Know Your Life Purpose
Knowing your purpose in life helps you live life with integrity. People who know their purpose in life know who they are, what they are, and why they are. And when you know yourself, it becomes easier to live a life that’s true to your core values.
10. Lack of Confidence and Self-Esteem
It’s not always easy to be confident in yourself, particularly if you’re naturally self-critical, or if other people put you down. But there are steps that you can take to increase and maintain your self-confidence. Self-confidence is understanding that you trust your own judgment and abilities and that you value yourself and feel worthy, regardless of any imperfections or of what others may believe about you. Self-efficacy and self-esteem are sometimes used interchangeably with self-confidence, but they are subtly different.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others like us) mastering skills and achieving goals. This encourages us to believe that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed. It’s this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges and to keep going in the face of setbacks.
Self-esteem is a more general sense that we can cope with what’s going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy.
Also, self-esteem comes in part from the feeling that the people around us approve of us. We may or may not be able to control this, and if we experience a lot of criticism or rejection from other people, our self-esteem can easily suffer unless we support it in other ways.
Understanding Habits Which One to Break
Everyone has bad habits they want to break, but instead of scorning yourself for being helpless to break them, use the fundamentals of forming habits to your advantage.
11. Habits, Good or Bad
Habits follow a typical three-step pattern. One way to describe this is as three Rs: reminder, routine, and reward. By breaking down the cycle of a bad habit, you can identify what triggers the routine and begin to address what really needs to change. This way you can establish a pattern for new and healthier habits.
A little bit of fear is normal. In fact, fear helps you instinctively protect yourself from harm. Your fear might help you to recognize when you’re about to do something dangerous, and it could help you to make a safer choice.
But, you might find yourself fearful of things that aren’t actually dangerous, like public speaking. Your fear of public speaking might prevent you from advancing in your career or participating in traditions like giving a toast at your best friend’s wedding. If you really want to go on a vacation to Europe, but your fear of flying gives you pause, you might feel like your fear is stopping you from living your dream. If you find that your fear holds you back or creates bigger problems in your life, facing your fear may help you learn to better cope with the fear and ultimately overcome it.
Common ways of facing your fears are evaluating the risks, creating an action plan, and being sure not to completely avoid your fears. However, you may need to first decide whether it’s necessary to face your fear if it is not part of your daily life.
Procrastination isn’t just a human problem. Newton’s First Law of Motion says that a body at rest will stay at rest until compelled to do otherwise. Dare we say it? The entire universe procrastinates.
So what does that mean for us, procrastinators? Are we doomed to a lifetime of whiling away hours of absently watching 80s music videos on YouTube?
To summarize: if you want to stop procrastinating, look at the big picture, know it’s okay to be dazed and confused at the beginning, remember your worth goes beyond your achievements, and, most of all, know thyself. Work with your tendency to procrastinate as it is, not as you wish it to be.
14. Poor Time Management
Time management for Millennials is the ability to properly plan out and prioritize your schedule, to be both effective and efficient with your time and goals. In other words, optimize your life. That way you can get 110% out of life that others are “too busy” to experience.
15. Adapting to Change
When change happens, you can either cooperate with it and learn how to benefit from it, or you can resist it and eventually get run over by it. It’s your choice.
Don’t wish for things to get easier. Wish for you to get better. Change requires you to grow…to become more effective. Approach change with excitement and a commitment to investigate, learn, and grow. Ask yourself, “What’s the potential benefit to me in this change?”
To be successful you have to change your responses to the people and the external events in your life. (The economy, clients, customers, food, accidents, failures, etc.)
Mindfulness to reduce stress and anxiety, to quiet their minds, to deal with insomnia, and to develop a calmer approach to life.
17. Not Applying The Law of Attraction
Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. … It is the Law of Attraction that uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually.